Life isn’t easy.
It’s messy, confusing, frustrating, and often times full of pain.
But to me, in all aspects, it is this exact notion that makes life all the more beautiful. Life is about enjoying the happy days, but while also embracing the terrible ones. I think a lot of times, we like to surround ourselves with positivity and sunshine and pretend that everything is going great when the fact of the matter is that sometimes things don’t. As human-beings, that’s a perfectly sound and understandable concept. Nobody likes being sad. We don’t like to chariot our hurt the same way we do with our joy.
Being strong does not mean you have to be okay.
You are allowed to feel raw, to hurt, to cry. Strength is not about putting on a facade and pretending the hard times don’t exist, it’s about welcoming them with open arms so next time you can punch them right in the face. To be strong, to be truly strong, you have to allow yourself to feel all the components of pain, regardless of however long and hard it may be.
You can go for a run, surround yourself with people you love, make bright yellow sunshine paintings, dance to Clarence Murray’s “Baby You Got It”, drink boba, drown yourself in school work, and buy yourself a new cute dress. But the reality is that no matter how hard you try, at the end of the day when you’re all alone at night your heart will still feel heavy and that’s perfectly okay. As one of my favorite sayings wonderfully states, “Courage does not always roar. Sometimes, courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying ‘I will try again tomorrow.”
Strength is about being your own badass. About persevering even though everything inside you hurts, about letting your fight and faith be greater than your fear could ever be. Strength comes from that place deep inside, that whisper in your head, that ache in your heart.
You are good enough. You are brave enough. You are strong enough. You always have been, you always will be.
You are the master of your own destiny. Your ship will sail wherever you choose to take it.
Rise out of the ashes baby. You got this.